When I was young, I never needed anyone

Things I love to do by myself:

1. Eat dinner. Whether at home, or at a restaurant, sometimes it’s nice to just grab a bite solo. This can mean anything from yam fries and a glass of prosecco while reading the latest Esquire, to snacking on sushi whilst sitting on a sun-drenched patio.

Tonight it was the latter, and it was glorious.

Just delicious.

2. Watch a movie. I never really get why people get so shirty about the idea of going to see a film on their own. I mean, movies are not inherently social outings, AM I RIGHT? And if they are, well, that just means you are doing it wrong.


People who talk in movies must face the wrath of humanity. It is a fact that they will eventually contract the bubonic plague, or have all their toenails fall off solely due to the fact that they don’t obey the rules of the movie going experience.

Now, I actually don’t watch movies in the theatre anymore (seriously, I cannot remember the last flick I saw at a multiplex), but once upon a time I relished the opportunity to walk past a famous players and decide on a whim to catch a show.

That was nice.

3. Run. I cannot run with others. When I try, I get all weirdly competitive and passive aggressive, and I am just the worst. And for this I apologize.

Alone. Again.

4. Shop. I should begin by qualifying that I actually really, really love shopping with other people. Friends, family, husbands – I’ll take ’em all, and we’ll have a great time trying stuff on. But when it comes down to brass tacks, and I know that there is a specific “it” I need to procure – be it a gift, or a dress, or a pair of shoes?

Well then I need to venture out into the retail wilds on my own.

Because I go rogue baby.


5. Cook. It drives me crazy when people don’t clean as they cook. WHY WOULD ANYONE WANT TO LIVE THAT WAY?

Clean and cook or die.

(Or just don’t cook with me. That seems easier, doesn’t it?)

What about you dudes? What activities do you like to partake in, all alone and on your own?

I will sit here by myself, and read about them.

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Vanessa Woznow

Writer, runner, ranter, reader. I write about all things.

42 thoughts on “When I was young, I never needed anyone”

    1. Snowboarding for sure. Any sport like that is great to adventure out on your own. And you’re right. For some, it’s just not an option.

  1. I like to travel alone. Not vacation alone, mind you, just the traveling part. I love being in an airport by myself, and honestly, I’m a little miserable to be around if I’m not by myself. I just want to eat overpriced food and read my book in solitude, please.

    1. Agreed. Traveling alone can be great. I sometimes like to venture out solo on a vacation. Maybe just an afternoon to explore by myself. :)

  2. Anything is pretty much doable alone, but it just gets awkward when you’re content treating yourself for a nice meal and neighbors are looking at you with pity as if you had no friends in the world! :p

    1. Lol! It’s so true. That always just makes me laugh. Or when the servers at a restaurant wont stop bugging you, because they think you’re sad to be all alone? It’s like – go away! I want this alone time!

  3. I love the idea of doing things alone but am normally terrified to do any of it. I keep pushing myself to do things alone (go for a coffee and read a book) and when I do it’s great, but it takes a lot of effort.

    1. I totally get what you’re saying. It can be super hard to step out of your comfort zone. Keeping a book with you is really great – that way you always have something to occupy yourself. I would recommend putting on a great pair of sunglasses and just watching the world go by! x

  4. I like to go to the movies and travel alone. I lived in another country by myself for several months by myself and barely spoke the native languages, but I enjoyed learning more about myself that way.

    1. Travel, YES! Didn’t think of that one. It is such a great way to learn about yourself, and step out of your comfort zone.

      Thanks for the fab note! x

  5. Ah, the life of the loner… :) Sounds like we would go well together, each doing our own thing, of course. I’m with you on most of these, although I don’t mind having a cooking buddy (this is probably because I make HUGE messes when I cook so the place gets dirty anyway – I’d drive you crazy!). You’re right though, some things are really enjoyable to do alone. Part of it for me is that opportunity for a deeper thought process – a long run can be a great time to problem solve, cooking solo can yield more creativity, dining along can be a chance for self care. And especially for introverted types it’s huge to make time to be alone and recharge. Great post!

    1. I really think it is important to take time for yourself, listen to your thoughts, and like you say re-charge. Even for the most extroverted of individuals it’s vital for your health – mental and otherwise!

      I also like to dance by myself (and do it quite a bit while cooking – maybe this is another reason why I like to do it alone?) Hah! Love you sweets! x

  6. hmm. (another long-winded ill-considered response comin’ up …)
    RUNN: seeing as how i usually run with a pack of dogs … but, seriously, those infrequent times i’m with “the kids”, they’ll slow down to run with dad (and there’s even more DOGS)
    RAMBLE: you might have noticed … i do enjoy a dog-pack solo-people seemingly aimless ramble thru’ the forest and high-desert.
    HIGH_POWERED HALLUCINOGENS: (ha! i’m mostly jes’ kidding). solo, there. (it’s been, uh, over 35 years)
    unrelated: those appear to be just great soosheez, 1st photo!

    1. I would totally, totally go for a run/hike with your dogs. They seem to make excellent exercise companions! And holy smokes, your last point? I WANT THAT RIGHT NOW.

  7. Listen to podcasts. Otherwise I’m sitting on the couch, staring into someone’s eyes while an invisible woman or man tries to duel-hypnotize us and, come on, that’s weird.

  8. When I’m on my own I like to revert back to being OCD whilst talking to myself and sometimes narrating. And if I get a headache, then I go back to being quiet and doing whatever I was doing. All in the name of making some sort of truce with loneliness of course.

    1. I sometimes laugh at the thoughts running through my head “narration style.”

      Do whatever makes your life sing Mr. Ctenophore Kid!

  9. …everything? Nah, just joshin’ ya. I must admit, however, that I am a solitary creature. I prefer to grocery shop on my own. When I need errand-type things at the store, I’d much rather go by myself. I love eating at restaurants alone…come on, it’s the best way to catch up on your writing. Or reading. I’ve always wanted to go to a movie by myself, but most movies are so terrible I can’t bring myself to spend my hard earned money on them. Oooh, oooh, I’ve got one!!! DRIVING. It’s the best. Late at night, roll down the windows, turn up the music? It’s been my de-stresser for years and years. Perhaps I’ll go on a midnight drive tomorrow night. :)

    1. OMG. Late night drives, HECK YES! I used to go for those all the time, although with my little sister (we wouldn’t talk, just jam along to our music.) Especially when the weather is good? I love it.

      I looooove that you too go to restaurants on your own. It makes my little heart so happy. And yes! When did movies get so bad? They are just terrible!

  10. I relish my “alone” time. Mostly, I think, because I don’t get much of it. (I’m careful what I wish for, though!) The ability to do things by yourself and to enjoy doing them sans company is, I believe, both underrated and underappreciated!

    1. I so totally agree! Being able to be quiet with yourself (and appreciate said solitude) is important! I too relish those moments – while at the same time knowing I wouldn’t want it that way forever. :)

  11. Oh man! Reading this post makes me all nostalgic about those days! I was a solo traveler to many a restaurant and coffee shop back in the day…oh the bliss! The only thing I was terrible about was grocery shopping alone. I dreaded that chore and still do to this day. I feel extremely lucky that I now have a counterpart and many of them to make this boring job a little more enjoyable to me! As for the cleaning while cooking this is a MUST for me! My mom is the sloppiest cook I have ever seen. By the time she is done preparing a meal it looks like a tornado has swept through the kitchen. She does get it all cleaned up but I am always making fun of her about this and telling her it would be so much easier if she just wiped up the little spills as she made them and threw things away immediately instead of letting it all pile up!

    1. Yes! Can we form a support group on the cooking while cleaning item? I would really, really like that. :) I always say that exact same thing to Marc – the kitchen is always a disaster zone when he’s through with it!

      It’s nice that your husband is a-okay grocery shopping solo. Although maybe next time say you’ll do it, and then head to a cafe instead! x

  12. I’m a fervent crafter and creator, and I prefer for the process to be completed in solitude, save for the tunes I’ve chosen for accompaniment. Libraries and garage sales are top picks for solitary activities, as well.

    As for your approach to shopping, I am in wholehearted agreement. Can we form a shopping group that travels to the location together but splits up and meets later?? I actively ask this of my friends if one ever suggests meeting up to shop.

    1. Oooer, a good mix of tunes is the absolute best! I like that especially when I am working on a project. Good call!

      And YES. We must totally create this group! Then we can go for coffee and treats when we’re done! :)

  13. The car! I love being in the car by myself, turning the music up loud, crank the bass all the way to its lowest and drive fast! This may have something to do with the fact that I recently moved into my parents home so that my elderly Mother could remain in her home as long as she can. Which means so many of the times in the car, she’s there with me – no loud music, no feeling young and free, instead it’s all about keeping her calm (back seat driver, for sure). She’s always yelling at the person in the lane in front of us because they’re holding us up. Funny really, because they’re usually going the speed limit or more, but she wants me to go faster and faster!

    1. This is utterly fantastic! First, what a wonderful thing you are doing for your Mum. :) And I love that she is a speed demon, and that this trait has rubbed off on you! Normally you might thing it was the other way around. :)

      I too LOVE to go zooming about in the car, music up, windows down. I have a mad love for really cheesy pop music, and it’s all I can do but break it down right there in the car. I have to keep reminding myself that I’m not in a music video!

  14. I like to shop for clothing by myself, which can be tough as on the weekends, presumably the only time I HAVE to do such shopping, I spend nearly every moment with my husband. With him in tow, I have to know what I am there for, what are we doing next, where are we going from here…Helloooo? It’s called “SHOPPING!” I need to shop! If I don’t know that I am going in for a specific item (i.e., black pencil skirt, of which I have more than half the free world, mind you), I need to mull about, poke around in this rack or that…it’s supposed to be relaxing for me, but when I am with my hub, it turns into a mission…this is not shopping to me and thus most times I do NOT shop, for the very reason that I cannot seem do so on my own.

    1. No joke, this note made me laugh out loud. You are hilarious! “black pencil skirt, of which I have more than half the free world, mind you” Haha!

      And I totally, totally get what you mean about the husband shopping thing. I like just strolling around with him outside on a hot day window shopping, but if I need something? No way jose. I’m on my own! x

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